Isn’t being an adult sometimes so hard? I’ve struggled sometimes to navigate adulthood, with things not being as easy as they were in the playground. Since finishing school in year 11 I lost a best friend of 5+ years, and gained two best friends at sixth form who I am still very close with 10+ years later. We don’t see each other that much anymore but when we do it is like nothing has changed and I truly believe this is the sign of a true and lasting friendship.
I left sixth form with no more close friends other than those two, and moved into university halls where a number of testing months led to big ol’ flat fall out which turned really quite ugly. I ended up starting my second year in a house with four other girls who I’d met throughout first year and we became inseparable. The next two years of living together had its ups and downs but I finished university with four lifelong friends.
Fast forward five years since graduation and we are scattered around the country and between us we have SO much going on. One has a baby on the way, one istrying to navigate adult life in general (thats me!) post wedding; another has a new life in Australia, one just snagged an incredible new job, and one who is on hungry and passionate saving mission to buy their own house. I love those girls with a passion and although we are all over the country, (and world!) they’re always there for a chat, advise or a night away.
Since finishing university however, I’d be lying if I said I have made friends with absolute ease. I’ve been lucky enough to make some great friends though work, but not having an active hobby made it very difficult to make friends on a day to day basis. I don’t really cross paths with many people on a daily basis, I don’t go out very often (granny alert) so that has all added up to me being somewhat stagnant in the new friends arena!
This is where blogging and the online world has really turned things upside down for me. I’ve been very lucky in that I’ve managed to find myself a hobby I enjoy and can enjoy (most of the time) alongside my demanding and stressful (also v. unglamorous day job) but also a group of three new besties. I’ve spoken about these girls numerous times online and also on my youtube channel. What started as a group for sharing beauty recommendations and for us to basically pester Rach for her insane SEO knowledge has turned into an actual friendship. I love those girls!
We have spoken every day for well over a year, and it is blogging and the internet which bought us together. I feel so blessed to have been able to meet people who I literally would probably never have crossed paths with if it wasn’t for the online hobby we have all chosen.
Something else that has come out of blogging is Bumble and bumble events – as a married lady I’m pretty much oblivious to the world of online dating (it wasn’t a ‘thing’ when I was single…!) so when I heard about Bumble events I was like wtf is Bumble! Bumble have created a now created not only a dating app, bu an app which can be solely for finding friends in your local area and I’ve actually made a friend through it! I can confirm that she wasn’t a catfish, but in fact a very lovely local girl who I’ve actually met up with and enjoyed cocktails aplenty with. We have plans for tapas and drinks in a few weeks actually! Bumble run two free events a month in various cities across the country, and I was lucky enough to attend their most recent event where we made flower crowns, chatted, and Mol got some of the above photos of me!
Have you find any ways of making friends as an adult? Do you also find it hard?